Understanding Passive Aggressive
The essence of Conflicts in a Relationship
Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.
A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, in the whole body. High conflict situations can literally and really kill you or make your heart suffer.
There must be other ways of solving interpersonal conflicts….Up until now, we wanted to win in each confrontation, by convincing the other side how wrong he or she was.
After how many of those “deadly combat situations,” how come that we see ourselves loneliest and more isolated than ever?
Winning that argument, only to feel that it was an empty victory, because we are not either more loved or respected….. There is a pervasive belief that there are left “no alternatives for us,” but to fight to win.
As you know, if you can admit it, paradoxically, in human relationships, by “winning over the others,” you lose big time.
Is there any other way to do conflicts than to have a winner and a loser?
Can we develop skills to do things differently?
Can we get what we want or need, without fighting?
Or, even better, with the other person’s cooperation and support?
Of course you can, but it takes a little work to understand, first what we are doing in a manner that is unproductive and ineffective, and then to learn what has to be done in a more intelligent way.
Why do we fight?
Because we need something from the people around us! We want acceptance, respect, being given a right place in our groups, families and all that is what we call “love”
Let’s take a look at how the world around us works, and then try to understand why things are as they are:
Conflict is a way of relating to others, a way of calling out for support, connection and recognition. Deny this basic fact of life and you will be enmeshed into very nasty situations, or accept this situation in your own live and learn.
We, at Positive Conflicts are ready to help you decide what you need to do to live a better, richer life.
A life with mastery over confrontations either generated by you or by others.
A life with more control of the process and outcome of any discussion, not withstanding how difficult the issue can be.
You will live without fear of conflict, following the good ideas, suggestions and techniques included in the digital book, offered by www.positiveconflicts.com
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